becoming Zoë: Recent Comments

Comment on Staying calm and centered

lisalee18wheeler — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 16:55:45 GMT

You're far wiser than people give credit... :-)

Comment on Everything's in transition

lisalee18wheeler — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:54:08 GMT

Change is the only permanent thing we have in life...along with death and taxes...

;-)

Comment on Pigtails with ribbons and Iaido

lisalee18wheeler — Wed, 17 Feb 2010 16:41:19 GMT

"innocent girl done up in pigtails and pink ribbons practicing the serious art of Iaido."

I'd love to see this... :-)

Comment on "Mom! - there's a man-lady!"

Zoe — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 12:21:16 GMT

It's all I could do at the time tho if I was in a lower state of mind, I might have felt depressed. I like that most people just don't really care about any differences in my appearance. I feel the boy was not trying to be malicious and so it was easy to laugh.

The occasional look of hostility I've had is a bit more of a challenge to deal with tho I've tended to just stare back until they look away.

Comment on "Mom! - there's a man-lady!"

Lori D — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 07:50:20 GMT

Ouch! I found that teen girls are the most brutally honest and least forgiving when it comes to pointing out differences in others to assuage their own insecurities.
Glad you shrugged it off!

Comment on "Mom! - there's a man-lady!"

lisalee18wheeler — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:35:20 GMT

LOL!

:-D

Comment on What does it mean to be a woman?

Jo — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 18:38:29 GMT

Brava! Well stated.

Comment on A poem worth reading

Zoe — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 00:21:50 GMT

Thank you!

Comment on A poem worth reading

Jo — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 21:42:07 GMT

Thanks for sharing that wonderful poem; and love the look of your new site!

Comment on Can you win by losing?

Zoe — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 16:21:50 GMT

I can see your point in a certain context. If someone was in general, nice to me, said "hi" or something and I ignore them, well yes, I would agree that would be insulting.

Most people tend to think compassion is only something soft and gentle and fluffy - sweet and kind. There is such a thing as wrathful compassion. For example when my child decided it would be fun to touch the stove iron that was practically red hot - I responded with wrathful compassion - as I knew he would suffer immensely from such foolish playing around - I yelled at him pointedly - danger was imminent for him. There was no time for fluffy sweet compassion - it was time for forceful, wrathful compassion. This was not done out of anger, but concern for my child's well being.

I will further argue that buy ignoring an insult from the Buddhist perspective helps to end the karmic cycle between participants. It simply acknowledge an insult can further prolong karmic exchange. Ignoring the insult, ends it.